If you’ve ever found yourself questioning life’s meaning, purpose, or why you make certain choices, you’re not alone. These are the kinds of deep, thought-provoking questions that existential therapy explores. While the term “existential” might bring to mind philosophers like Jean-Paul Sartre or Martin Heidegger, existential therapy is not just about abstract ideas—it’s about helping you understand and navigate life’s uncertainties, ultimately leading to a more authentic and meaningful life.
What Is Existential Therapy?
At its core, existential therapy is about exploring life’s big questions—the ones we all face at some point: Who am I? What is my purpose? What happens when I die? How do I make sense of life when it feels so uncertain?
Rather than focusing on treating specific symptoms or diagnosing mental illness, existential therapy helps you confront these existential concerns head-on. It provides a framework for examining the choices you make, the freedom you possess, and the meaning you find in life, all to help you live more fully and authentically.
The Origins of Existential Therapy
Existential therapy is influenced by existential philosophy, which delves into the nature of existence, death, freedom, and meaning. Think of philosophers like Søren Kierkegaard, Friedrich Nietzsche, Jean-Paul Sartre, and Martin Heidegger. They sought to understand the human experience and how we can create meaning in our lives.
The therapeutic approach to existential philosophy began to take shape in the mid-20th century with psychologists such as Rollo May, Viktor Frankl, and Irvin Yalom. They aimed to integrate existential ideas with practical psychology to help individuals navigate real-life challenges.
- Rollo May emphasized personal responsibility and the courage required to face life’s uncertainties.
- Viktor Frankl, a Holocaust survivor, developed logotherapy, which focuses on finding meaning in life—even in the darkest times.
- Irvin Yalom is a contemporary expert in existential therapy, known for his work on the role of death, relationships, and existential themes in mental health.
Key Concepts in Existential Therapy
Existential therapy isn’t about providing simple answers or quick fixes—it’s about exploring the difficult and sometimes uncomfortable questions that shape our lives. Some of the main themes you’ll encounter in existential therapy include:
1. Death and Mortality
Thinking about death can be unsettling, but existential therapy suggests that confronting our mortality helps us live more fully. By accepting that life is finite, you can make choices that align with what truly matters to you, leading to a more meaningful existence.
2. Freedom and Responsibility
To quote both Voltaire and Uncle Ben from Spider-Man, “With great power comes great responsibility.” We all have the freedom to make choices, but with that freedom comes responsibility. Existential therapy encourages you to take ownership of your actions and decisions, even when past experiences or societal pressures make you feel stuck. It’s about recognizing that you have the power to shape your life.
3. Isolation and Connection
While human beings crave connection, existential therapy acknowledges that each of us experiences life in our own way, which can sometimes lead to feelings of loneliness. However, by embracing this aspect of existence, you can learn how to build deeper, more authentic relationships with others.
4. Meaning and Purpose
What’s the point of it all? Existential therapy is deeply concerned with helping you find meaning in life. Viktor Frankl believed that even in the toughest circumstances, we can discover purpose. Whether through work, relationships, or personal growth, existential therapy helps you explore your values and passions to create a more fulfilling life.
How Does Existential Therapy Work?
Existential therapy isn’t about following a prescribed set of steps. It’s a reflective process where you work with a therapist to explore your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. The therapist won’t tell you what to do or give direct advice—they provide a safe, non-judgmental space for you to examine your inner world.
Some key elements and benefits of existential therapy include:
- Self-awareness: You’ll reflect on your values, beliefs, and assumptions about life, which can help you identify thought patterns that may be holding you back. By exploring your deeper emotions, you’ll gain a better understanding of who you are and what truly matters to you.
- Personal responsibility: Existential therapy encourages you to take ownership of your life and choices, empowering you to make changes that align with your authentic self.
- Authenticity: Rather than conforming to societal expectations or seeking external approval, existential therapy helps you embrace your true self and live a more intentional life.
- Existential dialogue: The therapeutic relationship serves as a space for exploring existential struggles, fostering personal growth and insight. Facing existential realities, such as death and suffering, can help build emotional resilience and enhance your ability to navigate life’s challenges.
Final Thoughts
Existential therapy isn’t about quick fixes—it’s about facing life’s big questions and using that understanding to live more authentically and intentionally. If you’re struggling with feelings of meaninglessness, loneliness, or anxiety about life’s uncertainties, existential therapy could provide a valuable space for self-exploration.
Whether you’re dealing with a specific challenge or simply seeking greater meaning in life, existential therapy offers a supportive and thought-provoking approach to personal growth. My name is Therapist Autumn, and I specialize in working through an existential approach. Please do not hesitate to contact me to get started on your therapy today at autumn@pacificacounseling.org.
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References:
Rogers, C. R. (1995). On Becoming a Person: A Therapist's View of Psychotherapy. Houghton Mifflin.
Yalom, I. D. (1980). Existential Psychotherapy. Basic Books.
