In recognition of Domestic Violence Awareness month, I wanted to use this platform to honor those that have experienced DV and/or Intimate Partner Violence. Whether it was you personally, or someone you know, domestic violence can have far-reaching effects. Our practice owner, Dr. Hanna Cespedes, wrote an amazing article earlier this month that acknowledges the misconceptions of DV, as well as ways in which abuse can occur. At this time, I would like to take a moment of silence and honor those that were victims of DV, those that are currently experiencing DV, and those that are no longer here with us, but their memory lives on.
In college I had the honor of supporting and volunteering at a local shelter that not only spread awareness to the community, but also housed those that have experienced DV. The stories shared are a testament to the horrific nature of what domestic violence represents. The raw, unfiltered truth about the ceaseless battles that men, women, and children have faced brings a new meaning to resiliency, vulnerability, and at times, a fight to survive. Brené Brown defines vulnerability as 'the ability to be open and honest about our feelings and experiences, even when they are difficult'. I do want to make a note here that there are many who have never had their story told; whether they have or currently are living in fear, do not have access to therapy, or in a state of permanent silence. If you are currently in this position and have access to therapy, I want to tell you that in sessions, this is your time and space. Having your own space may feel uncomfortable and some may feel unsafe. However, in session, we have the opportunity to validate your feelings, as well as find security, safety, and freedom in this time and space as YOU feel comfortable. Being vulnerable requires insight, strength, awareness, and willingness to speak about the uncomfortable. Just inquiring about therapy is a huge step!
I tend to remind my clients of the saying ' You are doing the best you can with the resources you have'. Always remember that you ARE enough! If you or a loved on are experiencing DV or IPV, please contact the Domestic Violence Awareness Hotline at 800-799-7233 or visit https://www.thehotline.org for more resources.
